Couples Therapy – Healing, Connection & Authentic Partnership 

In every relationship, neither partner brings more of the struggle or more of the goodness. What creates the perceived imbalances are the blind spots we each carry. 

If you believe your partner is the problem, look again. If you think you are the problem, look again. When both people commit to understanding rather than blaming, the whole debate around “who’s at fault” dissolves — and something far more nourishing takes its place.

“Jamie has really helped us grow closer as a couple and be empathetic towards each other’s feelings, and to be kind to ourselves. Helping us see the root (authentic) emotions has allowed us to partner and effectively work through our differences and problems instead of exploding at each other.”
D. & S., Couple Client

Imagine the space between you and your partner finally opening up for real connection, clarity, and genuine intimacy once conflict is no longer the center of your relationship.

Why Couples Come to Me

I work with couples throughout Boulder and beyond who are seeking support with:

• Relationship Therapy
• Relationship Coaching
• Conflict Repair
• Learning How to Be Relational
• Intimacy Therapy
• Infidelity Therapy
• Discernment Therapy (Should I stay or should I go?)
• Separation Therapy
• Divorce Therapy
• Post-Divorce Adjustment Therapy

Whether you’re in the early stages of a relationship, facing long-standing patterns, or navigating heartbreak or transition, I help you understand yourself and each other in deeply healing and transformative ways.

My Background & Specialized Training

I bring a wide range of training, postgraduate study, and or lived experience into my work with couples, including:

• IFS approach to Couples Therapy
• Terry Real – Relational Life Therapy
• Ellyn Bader – Developmental Approach to Couples Therapy
• Gottman Couples Therapy
• Stan Tatkin – PACT Therapy 
• Imago Couples Therapy – Harville and Helen Hendrix
• Gay and Katie Hendricks – Conscious Loving
• Enneagram Relationship Blind Spots
• Higher Alignment – Larry Byram

These approaches help me attune to the emotional, psychological, physiological, attachment and relational layers operating beneath conflict, disconnection, and repetitive patterns.

Marriage Isn’t Designed to Make You Happy — It’s Designed to Make You Whole

When you aim for wholeness, happiness naturally grows. But when you pursue happiness alone, the result is often tension, disconnect, and disappointment.

Most of us — myself included earlier in life — believe partnership should fill our gaps: loneliness, low esteem, financial security, boredom, insecurity, status, excitement, emptiness, a missing sense of meaning. But whatever you hope a partner will fix in you or in your life becomes the very thing that blocks healthy and vital connection until the underlying hurt is healed and the developmental growth task is mastered and integrated.

I can help you heal and grow as individuals and as a couple. Relationships always require both.

How I Work With Couples

I am direct, compassionate, intuitive, and fully comfortable going deep quickly. Together we will uncover the patterns beneath your conflict and create new ways of relating that feel empowering, loving, and sustainable.

You will learn how to move:

• From blame and defensiveness → to mutual understanding
• From angst-filled compromise → to mutually enriching agreements
• From withdrawal and shutting down → to creative engagement and vitality
• From criticism and resentment → to gratitude and appreciation
• From loneliness or suffocation → to connection and freedom

And yes — you can have both freedom and belonging at the same time. If you cannot experience both, your relationship or your emotional well-being will always feel threatened.

Working with me in Boulder, you can move from settling, fighting, checking out, or managing pain through addictions into a relationship more fulfilling than you imagined — if you’re willing to do the work. And if clarity leads you to a different path, I support that too. Discernment of whether to stay or leave the relationship is part of the healing process.

Why Relationship Challenges Can Surface So Much Pain

Intimate relationship activates the wounds, conditioning, and protective patterns formed in childhood. This is not a failure — it is the healing opportunity embedded in partnership.

You can use these triggers to:

• Grow
• Heal
• Understand yourself more deeply
• Build a relationship grounded in truth, compassion, and connection
• And get on with living a more vital and joy filled life.

Or you can use them to blame, numb out, and repeat familiar cycles. The choice is always there — and choosing well requires courage, support, and conscious effort. And I can help!

Relationship Support Through Every Stage

I work with couples at all points in their journey:

• Early in the relationship or pre-marriage
• Feeling stuck in repeating patterns
• Wanting to enrich connection or sexual intimacy
• Successfully addressing competing forces such as in-laws, children, work, hobbies
• Exploring whether to stay or leave
• Healing from infidelity, heartbreak, or betrayal
• Navigating separation or divorce
• Rebuilding life post-divorce or after loss

No matter where you are, you don’t have to navigate it alone.

Mindfulness, Somatic Awareness & Clear Insight

My grounding in mindfulness and body-centered practices helps you regulate, reconnect, and soften the nervous system when challenges arise. Whether you are feeling shame, anger, resentment, overwhelm, or disconnection, I hold a compassionate, intuitive presence that helps you feel safe enough to explore and successfully work with what’s underneath.

Together, we track the patterns that keep you stuck and create new ways of relating that feel aligned, supportive, and emotionally authentic.

Begin Couples Therapy

If you’re ready to deepen connection, heal old pain, repair trust, or transform the way you engage with each other and communicate, I would be honored to guide you.

Whether your next chapter is about rebuilding your relationship or gaining clarity about parting ways, there is a meaningful, empowered path forward — and you don’t have to walk it alone.

FAQ

1. What can we expect in our first couples therapy session?

In our first session, I help both of you slow down, feel grounded, and begin identifying the patterns beneath your conflict or disconnection. You’ll leave with greater clarity about what’s happening and how we’ll approach your work together. You’ll learn how to leave defensiveness at the door so true connection can unfold.

2. Do you offer support for couples dealing with infidelity?

Yes. I provide structured, compassionate guidance for couples healing from betrayal, rebuilding trust, and deciding how to move forward with honesty and care. Many couples face and grow through the challenges of infidelity. Where it is difficult and painful is exactly where the healing and growth of each person is needing attention and care. 

3. Can couples therapy help even if we’re considering separation or divorce?

Absolutely. I offer discernment, separation, and divorce therapy to help you gain clarity about the future of your relationship — whether that means repairing it or choosing a healthy, respectful transition.

As long as both people in the couple are willing and wanting to do the individual healing and growth work along with the relational healing and growth work necessary, all couples can achieve the abilities to co-create a thriving, loving, healthy and mutually vitalizing relationship.

If one or both of you decide in the process that you want to end the relationship, I can help you make that journey and decision consciously and with kindness. This level of work becomes especially important when you will need to continue to co-parent as a no-longer-together partnership.